What’s On

DEC 2012



On Wednesday 5 December 2012 at 5:30 pm at the Mandal Hall

This is the election year and members requested to attend in large number.


Our ‘Banus’


A Reminder

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From 1st January 2013 Rs 15 per month will be charged for late payment





Senior Citizens Evening

Sun 2 Dec at 6pm at KPI

Come and enjoy a very Parsi Bollywood movie “Shirin Farhad Ki Toh Nikal Padi” with Farah Khan and Boman Irani gagging you with laughter, and Daisy Irani ‘very loving’ mother of Farhad, stealing some scenes.  This will be followed by refreshments and of course to socialise.  Please give your names to the usual contacts so that adequate arrangements can be made.



New Council of Management (2013-2015)

President:  Shahrazad Irani         

Joint Honorary Secretaries, Dinaz Divecha and Dinshaw Avari                          

Honorary Treasurer: Freddy Sidhwa                 

Members: Kaizer Irani, Behroze Khambatta, Cyrus Khursigara, Ratanshaw Makujina, Perin Mama, Natasha Mavalvala and Natasha Mobed



YMZA/Dastur Dr Dhalla’s Minwalla 2012 Music Competition Result:

The Shield went jointly to Raizan Mavalvala & Zermesh Behram Irani. 

Instruments only Category-  (Age: 6&7yrs)- (1st) Tie between Nairmeen Sidhwa & Freya Wania; (2nd) Afshad Sidhwa; (3rd) Iyanah Bhatena.

(Age: 8&9 yrs)- (1st & Shield) Zermesh Irani; (2nd) Arshan Irani; (3rd) Selena Wania; (Age: 10&11 yrs)- (1st & Shield) Raizan Mavalvala; (2nd) Tie b/w Fareezeh Sidhwa & Astad Sidhwa; (3rd) Tie b/w Aarman Mavalvala & Hufriya Modegarian; (Age: 12&13 yrs)- (1st) Nazish Talati; (2nd) Nasha Makujina; (3rd) Zarah Irani; (Age: 14&15 and 16-19 yrs COMBINED)- (1st) Naushad Talati; (2nd) Sharmene Sidhwa; (3rd) Naomi Haveliwala.

Singing only Category(Age: 5-9 yrs COMBINED)- (1st)  Zermesh Irani; (2nd) Iyanah Bhatena; (3rd) Nasha Irani; (Age: 12&13 and 16-19 yrs COMBINED)- (1st)  Kayser Garshasbi; (2nd) Sanaira Mondegarian

Singing & Playing an Instrument -(Age:12-15 yrs COMBINED)- (1st)  Fiona Aga & Kayser Garshasbi; (2nd) Noshirwan Kotwal; (3rd) Neusha Mondegarian, Nadia Randeria & Zara Malbari

Judges Rashna Ghazder and Tashan Mistree Byramji




2012 YMZA/Dastur Dr Dhalla Athornan Mandal Guajarati Competition:

2-4 yrs Age category: 1st: Rayyan Quettawalla; 2nd: Shahan Behram Irani; 3rd: Cherezad Cyrus Noshirwan. 

5-7 yrs: 1st: Framroze  Purveyor; 2nd: Shiyavash Kapadia;

8-10 yrs: 1st: Ardavan Solan; 2nd: Zermesh Irani; 3rd: Farzad Najmi.

11-13 yrs: 1st: Narina Daruwala; 2nd: Nadya Randeria; 3rd: Zanaida Patel. 

Judges:  Vera Sidhwa and Aban Aga




Pesi Dinshaw Engineer expired on 27 October in Toronto, Canada

Jehangir Jamshedji Andhiarujina on 7 November

Hootoxi Tehmurasp (Sunny) Khursigara on 17 NovembeR


Obituary Notices

Fram Framji promptly sends out obituary notices, in batches, to over 600 persons including ex-Karachiites overseas. This helps the information reach most of the community in time to attend funerals and other prayers. When he has connectivity problem he even goes to an obliging Zarthusti’s house and sends out.

 In return it will be thoughtful on our part if we:



Hoshidar Kotwal
Tel  #  3588 1965   :  3589 7809

Looking for an honest full-time live-in male servant.




Bosom Talk



We have breasts for motherhood, womanhood and beauty, and naturally we like to take care of them.  May I trust that we have all adult readers and no one will be offended with the topic.


There is not much we need to do but have a little awareness to have healthy breasts: Broadly speaking, what does not hinder the free circulation and movement of breasts is good for them.


To start with, a bra does restrict circulation but is a necessity. It is wise to wear it never more than 12 hours at a time and definitely not during lying down or sleeping.  Underwire bras increase the restriction and are best avoided.


It is even claimed that benign fibrocystic breasts become healthier by not wearing a bra for about 8 weeks. It is a bit challenging to do this, but the keen ones may like to try it and wear a chemise when required.


It is also wise to avoid using anti-perspirants on underarms because it prevents natural flow of perspiration.  Deodorants maybe used but since one is never sure of what is written on a bottle and what is really in it, it is better to avoid that too and instead use anti-bacterial soap. The offensive smell is caused by bacteria on our skin and maintaining proper hygiene by gently scrubbing our underarms with bacterial soap when taking a shower, can resolve the matter.


Habit of spraying pesticides is better replaced by the powder version.  Fumes and chemicals released from sprays have an adverse effect our bodies.

Chinese medicine, as some of you may know, has an entirely different approach. It believes that stress, frustration and unresolved anger can lead to breast diseases – benign and malignant. Relaxing and releasing stress on daily basis is recommended by them, which can be done through yoga, meditation, EFT (check on the Net) or any relaxation method that works for you.

The other interesting suggestion by the Chinese medicine is to massage the breasts daily. It improves the flow of blood and body fluids, because many diseases are due to inadequate or stagnant blood and fluids. However, the key to success is perseverance.  The motivated can search “Lymphatic Breast massage Made Easy” on the Net and make a start to see the difference.

We Parsi ladies need to pay attention to this subject.










The Johari Windows


Jo and Harry’s Jo Hari Windows gives us four quadrants in a square or 4 panes (glass) to a window.

The quadrants are self-explanatory:

Open:  is what is known to you and others


Hidden:  are your secrets, private matters or even ‘pretences’


Blind:  Are your weaknesses / faults that you are not aware of but others can see


Unknown: Is that neither you nor others know about you. It can even be your untapped potential



These quadrants vary in size between individuals and there is an interpretation for each:


A person with larger open area is better at communicating with others and has good interpersonal relationships. This is because openness increases level of trust between people and makes receiving and giving information easier.  However, one does not have the same level of openness for her casual acquaintances as for one’s friends or immediate colleagues. It does vary. 


A person with larger hidden area is a withholding person.  She wants to know where other people stand before she would commit herself. This makes it difficult for  the other person to know where you stand on issues:  “Hey, you always ask me how I feel but never tell me how you feel.”  It evokes irritation, distrust and withholding in return.


A person with larger blind spot is either insensitive to the feedback she gets or she does not hear what others tell her because she is a poor listener or she responds so badly that others are reluctant to give her  feedback. For instance she may get angry, start crying or threaten to leave.

The one with larger unknown does not know much about herself and is therefore a silent member of a group.  She neither gives nor asks for feedback. She is a mystery person. She keeps people from getting in and herself from getting out.

To reduce one’s blind spots one ought to solicit feedback and self-disclosure, and give feedback.  This way we move from blind spot and hidden areas to open area where interaction become meaningful and relationships grow.

Next month there will be a fun exercise you can do with a friend, to help you find your Blind Spots. Game?


Our religion

Responsibilities of a Navjotee

The Navjote ceremony is familiar to all our readers but there is an interesting historical fact on the subject that I would like to share here.

Originally, the initiation or the Navjote ceremony used to take place at the time of a person entering the age of reason, so that s/he could assume personal responsibility for his thoughts, words and deeds. Fifteen was considered to be that age and the ceremony took place after the fourteenth birthday, but before entering the fifteenth.

It was a coming of age ceremony with a confession of the Zoroastrian faith.  It was considered that at that age a person has the mental capacity and maturity to accept the faith and its principles through free will, and make reasoned choices and be responsible for them.

At birth the child is born to the care of her/his parents and remains so until coming of age.  After Navjote, it is considered that the person enters a new life, a life or responsibility and accountability for his every thought, word and deed.

Going by this historical information, Navjote at the age of seven does not quite accomplish what it is meant to, and is believed that the age for Navjote was lowered to the age of seven when we came to India.



You will never let my hand go

Little girl and her father were crossing a bridge. The father was scared so he asked his little daughter, "Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river."


The little girl said, "No, Dad. You hold my hand."

"What's the difference?" asked the puzzled father.

"There's a big difference," replied the little girl.

"If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."



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