What’s On

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What’s On

 

KZBM’s Inter-Association Quiz Competition
On Saturday 24 April 2010 at the Mandal Hall

 

Join us for an evening of general knowledge, brain-teasers and fun as our Quiz Master Perviz Daroga entertains us and adds to our knowledge. KZBM, KPI & PPCA will compete by forming two teams of six members per team. We also encourage individuals to participate by making two teams of their own namely WIZZ 1 and WIZZ 2. Kindly give your team names to Katherina Irani by 20 April 2010.

 

 

Venue: KZBM Garden
 
Time: 8pm onwards
 
For all: Rs 280
 
Last date: April 20 till 1pm

 

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KZBM’s New Loan Facility

 

KZBM have introduced a new loan facility for young people of our community (for Karachi-ites only) intending to get married. This loan is to facilitate them to set up their new home and can be applied for 10-12 months prior to their wedding. Both partners must be Zarthostis.  KZBM committees have the right to reject an application. Other stipulations will be discussed with the couple when the application is approved. You may send your applications to Spenta Khambatta, Chairperson, Welfare Subcommittee or Roshan Mehri, Honorary Treasurer.

 

 

WZO’s 4-in-1 Calendar

 

14 copies of our calendar commencing from 21 March 2010 -  March 2011 are available against a donation of Rs100 from Dilshad Irani, ph: 3566 2959 / 3566 0171 on a first-cum-first basis.

 

 

Our Friend

 

YMZA Centenary

 

To celebrate YMZA's Centenary (1910-2010), YMZA is introducing a limited number of Commemorative Coins to celebrate this momentous Occasion! Each Coin is pure silver and 15 grams in weight, representing YMZA's contribution to the Zoroastrian youth of Karachi and a store of value for future generations. These are available on sale from March 21, 2010 for Rs. 2,000 per piece. Please contact any of the following Committee Members to book your order in advance - Shahpur Maneckji, Nergesh Jamasji, Behroze Khambatta, Freddy Sidhwa, Firoozeh Mogal, Perin Mama, Kaizer Irani, Shahrazad Irani or Dinshaw B. Avari.

 

 

In Memoriam

KZBM remembers

KZBM remembers its member Perveez Meherji Dastur who with her melodious voice and talent entertained the community, and was ever willing to sing for Banu Mandal programmes whenever approached. She also sang on Radio Pakistan and on Pakistan Television and was the proud recipient of the coveted Pride of Performance Award.

 

Though she has left for her heavenly abode, her memory will be kept alive through her popular “Roj aaj no hu vay mubarak” eagerly sought on personal auspicious occasions.

Managing Committee

 

 

BMH Parsi Hospital remembers:

Mrs Hutoxi Minwalla who expired recently at the age of 80 years served the BMH Parsi Hospital for over 33 years with true dedication. To give an incident : whenever she fell sick and could not stay home alone, she was allowed to stay at the hospital. The entire staff would be petrified and on their toes as she would keep a check on them at any odd hour or night. Such was her dedication to the Hospital.

 

She believed in the true nursing code of care, hygiene and cleanliness, and was known to all Karachi Zarthostis due to her affiliation with the Hospital. May Ahura Mazda grant her eternal peace.

Managing Committee and Trustees

 

 

Jimmy Messman remembered

The Curtain Falls

Entertainer, actor, singer Jamshed (Jimmy) Sohrabji Messman has sadly left us for his eternal abode. In the field of entertainment in our Parsi community, there is a void which will be difficult to fill. We are all very grateful to Jimmy for his ever willing and jolly contribution to so many of our functions. The refrains of “Payyas in the Night” and “Rumali Rotli” will undoubtedly haunt us for a long time. Dear friend, rest in peace.

An Admirer

 

 

 

 

Milestones  Information up to 15 March 2010

 

 

MARAN

Jamshed (Jimmy) Sohrabji Messman on 17 February

 

 

Posting

 

Nusserwanji Ogra, Mobile: 0321-2571051 and 0312-9111942, Tel: 32210100 : 35216903

For professional restoration and reconditioning of old and treasured books, manuscripts, etc.
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Taste Buds

Moghlai Korma

 

(Late Ishaat Habibullah was a connoisseur of good food and a great chef of Pakistani and European cuisine. Here is one of his very own and very delectable recipes. – Ed)

 

“This dish is eaten by very Pakistani and is traceable to the Moghal courts of Delhi and Lucknow.

 

            1 lb lean mutton or lamp, cut into large cubes

            4 ozs yoghurt

            3 onions sliced finely

            3 dessertspoon of butter

 

Heat butter and fry onions till light brown. Add meat and yoghurt and cook till boiling is reached and simmer for 5 more minutes; then take off the heat. Keep warm.

 

Make a paste of 12 almonds, 2 cloves of garlic, 1” piece of green ginger, half  sprig mint, half sprig coriander, 6 cardamom, half stick cinnamon, 6 pepper corns, half teaspoon black cumin seeds, 2 pinches of red chilli powder, 2 teaspoons of rock salt, juice of one lemon and 1 teaspoon sugar.

 

Mix the prepared meat, paste, lemon and sugar and cook. When it starts to simmer cover the lid tight and put in the oven at 350 degrees (gas). Cook for one hour till meat is tender and all the spices and liquids smell cooked and the butter has separated.

 

This should be served with rice or any of the numerous breads of the Sub-Continent (chappaties, nan etc.).”  Bon appetit!

 

 

Biz-Wiz by Pouruchisty Sidhwa

 

Staying with “NO”

No one likes hearing "No," and few can resist pushing back — sometimes quite persistently. Most of us find ourselves torn between our wish to stay with no and our desire to accommodate the person asking us for something. This tension is particularly acute when that person is a valued client or a senior colleague.

 

When we say no and find ourselves pressured to unsay it, we can of course just give in. But giving in, especially when it becomes a habit, can seriously damage our credibility and effectiveness as professionals. Here is how to say no in a way that both conveys your resolve and preserves your relationships.

 

Use a Neutral No
To say no and stay with it requires defusing emotion on both sides: our discomfort at staying with an unpopular no and our counterpart's irritation, disappointment, or anger at hearing it. Use a neutral no to turn down the emotional temperature. A neutral no is steady, uninflected, and clear.

 

A neutral manner doesn't prevent you from speaking directly about the friction your no creates. "It's hard for me to tell you no; it must be hard for you to hear" is consistent with neutral. If you know or suspect why your counterpart is resisting your no, acknowledge his concern honestly but without giving hope. "You have a lot invested in what you're asking, and it looks like I'm personally blocking you." Give a reason or justification for your no. "I see my job as balancing valid but competing needs. I'm focusing on that."

 

Be Consistent
When explaining why you're saying no, don't volley different arguments with your counterpart. This just confuses both of you. If you have time to prepare for this conversation, have a consistent, cogent argument at the ready. In some cases, you may want to tell your counterpart what you could say yes to. That's not a foundation of staying with no, it's an option and the beginning of a negotiation.


Explain the Real Reason You Are Saying No
Sometimes people hold back from explaining the real reason for their no, substituting instead lighter-weight reasons that they think their counterpart will find more palatable. The problem with this is that their counterpart usually finds it easy to swat away those lightweight reasons because they aren't very persuasive. To limit the frustration on both sides, give reasons with good weight up-front.

 

Don't Give False Hope

Staying with no tentatively, or with a show of reluctance, makes it easy for your counterpart to hope you will change your no — and hard for him to accept the no. It sounds like your no is on the edge of tipping over into yes, so your counterpart is encouraged to keep pushing.

 

Avoid a Battlefront Attitude

Not everyone tries to soften her no. Some of us say no combatively, and treat staying with no as escalating warfare. When staying with no feels like a triumph of the will, good outcomes — and good judgment — are in jeopardy.

 

Practice Staying with No

If you want to get better at staying with no in the face of your counterpart's resistance to it, practice with someone who will play the part of your worst nightmare in a protected setting. That way, you'll be well prepared for when a real situation arises, when a lot is on the line.

 

Beauty Plus

Every Relationship has a Cycle


Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call and even liked their idiosyncrasies.


Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to do anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.


Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of every relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all) and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.


At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" and as you and your spouse reflect on this euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.


Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.


But the answer to this dilemma does not lie outside your marriage. It lies within it.

 

Temporarily you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because
the key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person: it's learning to love the person you found

 

You can't "find" lasting love. You have to "make" it happen. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes wisdom. 


Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise programme makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship will make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. 
 

Love in marriage is a "decision": not just a feeling.

 

 

And…

When I came home in the rain,
My Brother (asked): “Why you didn't take an umbrella.”
Sister: (advised), “ Why didn't you wait till rain stopped.”
Father (angrily): “I warned you before!  Now, after getting cold, you will realise.”

 

Mother: while drying my hair, said, “Stupid rain! Couldn't it wait, till my child came home.”

That's Maa (Mother).
(Courtesy Roshan mana) 

 

 

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