Inter-Association Quiz Competition
On Saturday 24 April 2010 at the Mandal Hall
Join us for an
evening of general knowledge, brain-teasers and fun as our Quiz Master Perviz
Daroga entertains us and adds to our knowledge. KZBM, KPI & PPCA will compete by
forming two teams of six members per team. We also encourage individuals to
participate by making two teams of their own namely WIZZ 1 and WIZZ 2. Kindly
give your team names to Katherina Irani by 20 April
Time: 8pm onwards
For all: Rs 280
Last date: April 20 till 1pm
introduced a new loan facility for young people of our community (for
Karachi-ites only) intending to get married. This loan is to facilitate them
to set up their new home and can be applied for 10-12 months prior to their
wedding. Both partners must be Zarthostis. KZBM committees have the right
to reject an application. Other stipulations will be discussed with the
couple when the application is approved. You may send your applications to
Spenta Khambatta, Chairperson, Welfare Subcommittee or Roshan Mehri,
14 copies of our
calendar commencing from 21 March 2010 - March 2011 are available against a
donation of Rs100 from Dilshad Irani, ph: 3566 2959 / 3566 0171 on a
To celebrate YMZA's Centenary (1910-2010), YMZA is introducing a limited
number of Commemorative Coins to celebrate this momentous Occasion! Each
Coin is pure silver and 15 grams in weight, representing YMZA's contribution
to the Zoroastrian youth of Karachi and a store of value for future
generations. These are available on sale from March 21, 2010 for Rs. 2,000
per piece. Please contact any of the following Committee Members to book
your order in advance - Shahpur Maneckji, Nergesh Jamasji, Behroze
Khambatta, Freddy Sidhwa, Firoozeh Mogal, Perin Mama, Kaizer Irani,
Shahrazad Irani or Dinshaw B. Avari.
KZBM remembers its member Perveez Meherji Dastur who with her melodious voice
and talent entertained the community, and was ever willing to sing for Banu
Mandal programmes whenever approached. She also sang on Radio Pakistan and on
Pakistan Television and was the proud recipient of the coveted Pride of
Though she has left for her heavenly abode, her memory will be kept alive
through her popular “Roj aaj no hu vay mubarak” eagerly sought on
personal auspicious occasions.
BMH Parsi Hospital remembers:
Mrs Hutoxi Minwalla who expired recently at the age of 80 years served the BMH
Parsi Hospital for over 33 years with true dedication. To give an incident :
whenever she fell sick and could not stay home alone, she was allowed to stay at
the hospital. The entire staff would be petrified and on their toes as she would
keep a check on them at any odd hour or night. Such was her dedication to the
She believed in the true nursing code of care, hygiene and cleanliness, and was
known to all Karachi Zarthostis due to her affiliation with the Hospital. May
Ahura Mazda grant her eternal peace.
Managing Committee and Trustees
Jimmy Messman remembered
The Curtain Falls
Entertainer, actor, singer Jamshed (Jimmy) Sohrabji Messman has sadly left us
for his eternal abode. In the field of entertainment in our Parsi community,
there is a void which will be difficult to fill. We are all very grateful to
Jimmy for his ever willing and jolly contribution to so many of our functions.
The refrains of “Payyas in the Night” and “Rumali Rotli” will
undoubtedly haunt us for a long time. Dear friend, rest in peace.
Information up to 15 March 2010
(Jimmy) Sohrabji Messman on 17 February
Nusserwanji Ogra, Mobile: 0321-2571051 and 0312-9111942, Tel: 32210100 :
professional restoration and reconditioning of old and treasured books,
Habibullah was a connoisseur of good food and a great chef of Pakistani and
European cuisine. Here is one of his very own and very delectable recipes. –
“This dish is
eaten by very Pakistani and is traceable to the Moghal courts of Delhi and
lb lean mutton or lamp, cut into large cubes
onions sliced finely
dessertspoon of butter
and fry onions till light brown. Add meat and yoghurt and cook till boiling
is reached and simmer for 5 more minutes; then take off the heat. Keep warm.
Make a paste
of 12 almonds, 2 cloves of garlic, 1” piece of green ginger, half sprig
mint, half sprig coriander, 6 cardamom, half stick cinnamon, 6 pepper corns,
half teaspoon black cumin seeds, 2 pinches of red chilli powder, 2 teaspoons
of rock salt, juice of one lemon and 1 teaspoon sugar.
prepared meat, paste, lemon and sugar and cook. When it starts to simmer
cover the lid tight and put in the oven at 350 degrees (gas). Cook for one
hour till meat is tender and all the spices and liquids smell cooked and the
butter has separated.
be served with rice or any of the numerous breads of the Sub-Continent (chappaties,
nan etc.).” Bon appetit!
Staying with “NO”
No one likes
hearing "No," and few can resist pushing back — sometimes quite
persistently. Most of us find ourselves torn between our wish to stay with
no and our desire to accommodate the person asking us for something. This
tension is particularly acute when that person is a valued client or a
When we say no and
find ourselves pressured to unsay it, we can of course just give in. But
giving in, especially when it becomes a habit, can seriously damage our
credibility and effectiveness as professionals. Here is how to say no in a
way that both conveys your resolve and preserves your relationships.
Use a Neutral No
To say no and stay with it requires defusing emotion on both sides: our
discomfort at staying with an unpopular no and our counterpart's irritation,
disappointment, or anger at hearing it. Use a neutral no to turn down the
emotional temperature. A neutral no is steady, uninflected, and clear.
A neutral manner
doesn't prevent you from speaking directly about the friction your no
creates. "It's hard for me to tell you no; it must be hard for you to hear"
is consistent with neutral. If you know or suspect why your counterpart is
resisting your no, acknowledge his concern honestly but without giving hope.
"You have a lot invested in what you're asking, and it looks like I'm
personally blocking you." Give a reason or justification for your no. "I see
my job as balancing valid but competing needs. I'm focusing on that."
When explaining why you're saying no, don't volley different arguments with
your counterpart. This just confuses both of you. If you have time to
prepare for this conversation, have a consistent, cogent argument at the
ready. In some cases, you may want to tell your counterpart what you could
say yes to. That's not a foundation of staying with no, it's an option and
the beginning of a negotiation.
Explain the Real Reason You Are Saying No
Sometimes people hold back from explaining the real reason for
their no, substituting instead lighter-weight reasons that they think their
counterpart will find more palatable. The problem with this is that their
counterpart usually finds it easy to swat away those lightweight reasons
because they aren't very persuasive. To limit the frustration on both sides,
give reasons with good weight up-front.
Give False Hope
Staying with no
tentatively, or with a show of reluctance, makes it easy for your
counterpart to hope you will change your no — and hard for him to accept the
no. It sounds like your no is on the edge of tipping over into yes, so your
counterpart is encouraged to keep pushing.
a Battlefront Attitude
Not everyone tries
to soften her no. Some of us say no combatively, and treat staying with no
as escalating warfare. When staying with no feels like a triumph of the
will, good outcomes — and good judgment — are in jeopardy.
Practice Staying with No
If you want to get
better at staying with no in the face of your counterpart's resistance to
it, practice with someone who will play the part of your worst nightmare in
a protected setting. That way, you'll be well prepared for when a real
situation arises, when a lot is on the line.
Relationship has a Cycle
Every relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your
spouse. You anticipated their call and even liked their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely
natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to do anything. That's
why it's called "falling" in love.
Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But
after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural
cycle of every relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother
(if they come at all) and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being
cute, drive you nuts.
At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the
right person?" and as you and your spouse reflect on this euphoria of the
love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their
unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.
Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the
most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, church, a hobby, a
friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does not lie outside your marriage. It lies
Temporarily you'd feel better. But you'd be in the
same situation a few years later. Because
the key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person: it's
learning to love the person you found
can't "find" lasting love. You have to "make" it happen. It takes time,
effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes wisdom.
Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are
also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise programme
makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship will make
your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and
apply the laws, the results are predictable.
Love in marriage is a "decision": not just a feeling.
When I came home in
My Brother (asked): “Why you didn't take an umbrella.”
Sister: (advised), “ Why didn't you wait till rain stopped.”
Father (angrily): “I warned you before! Now, after getting cold, you will
drying my hair, said, “Stupid rain! Couldn't it wait, till my child came
(Courtesy Roshan mana)
Hilla Bharucha (Parsi Colony) and Phiruza Birdie (Cyrus Colony)
Change of Address: Nergesh Daruwalla (Tel # 32791383 or
Postings, Z-clips, Milestones:
Sunnu Golwalla (Tel # 32780200 after 8pm or on
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Friday of the month. If received thereafter input will be taken in following